Why Narcissists Can't Truly Love You Back
Understanding the Emotional Limitations of Narcissistic Relationships
As I sit down to write this article, I'm reminded of the countless times I've seen people ask the same questions about narcissists and love. It's a painful topic, one that I've experienced firsthand, and one that I wish someone had warned me about sooner. So, let me be blunt: narcissists don't love you. They don't miss you. They only love themselves, and their actions are driven by a deep-seated need for validation and control.
Narcissists are master manipulators, and they know exactly how to make you feel loved and cherished. They'll shower you with attention, flattery, and affection in the beginning, but it's all a ruse. They're not capable of genuine love because they don't understand what love truly means. They're wired to prioritize their own needs and desires above all else.
When a narcissist says they love you, what they really mean is that they love the way you make them feel. They love the validation, the admiration, and the worship. They love the control they have over you, the power to make you do their bidding. But they don't love you, the person. They don't care about your feelings, your needs, or your well-being.
And when they leave, as they inevitably will, they won't miss you. They'll miss the supply of love and attention you provided, but they won't miss you as a person. They'll move on to the next victim, the next source of supply, without batting an eye.
It's a harsh truth, but one that needs to be said. Narcissists are not capable of healthy, meaningful relationships. They're addicts, and their addiction is to their own ego. They're only good for one thing: purely sexual relationships, and even that comes with a hefty price tag.
So, to all those who are still holding onto hope that a narcissist will change, will love you back, will miss you when you're gone, let me tell you: it's not going to happen. They're not wired that way. Instead, take back control of your life, your love, and your worth. Don't waste your love on those who are incapable of returning it. You deserve better. You deserve someone who will love you for who you are, not for what you can do for them.
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