🍼 Can I Show Up 8 Months Pregnant to a Baby Shower? (The Silent Dilemma Modern Moms Face)

Mental Health & Real Life Moments | June 2025

Jun 01, 2025

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Something vulnerable landed in our inbox this week — and it’s too relatable to ignore:

“Would it be rude of me to show up 8 months pregnant (second child) to a baby shower for a child due around the same time? I obviously don’t want to steal attention, it’s HER moment…”

Let’s pause right here.

This question is more than just baby shower etiquette. It’s a mirror into something deeper, mom guilt, emotional awareness, and the invisible pressures we carry in modern motherhood.

So let’s unpack it. Together.

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💭 The Unspoken Pressure of Being "Too Much"

In 2025, we’re finally talking more openly about emotional labor and the invisible mental load women carry , but there’s still this lingering fear among many moms: taking up too much space.

You’ve probably felt it too.

You walk into a room, growing another human inside of you, and still somehow worry if your presence will make others uncomfortable.

Sound familiar?

🎈 Baby Shower Etiquette: Is It Really About You?

Let’s get something straight:

If you were invited to the baby shower, you’re wanted there. Your friend — the mom-to-be — sees you as part of her village. She doesn’t view your presence as competition. She sees you as support.

You’re not crashing a spotlight. You’re helping hold the light.

But this anxiety? It’s real. And common. So many second-time moms wonder:

Will people ask about my pregnancy?
Will it pull attention away from the guest of honor?
Will I be “that mom” who made it about herself?

Here’s the truth: The spotlight only shifts when ego enters the room.

👣 Two Pregnant Women, One Room, Not a Rivalry

What if we stopped seeing this as a visibility issue and started seeing it as a shared story?

Your second pregnancy doesn’t compete with her first. They can co-exist. In fact, your presence could quietly reassure her , show her that motherhood is survivable, even beautiful, the second time around.

No need to explain or shrink yourself. Just be there. Be present. Let her shine, but know you’re part of the glow.

🧠 Emotional Self-Awareness Is the Real Etiquette

2025 isn’t about following dusty etiquette rules from the 1960s. It’s about emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and showing up with intention.

So ask yourself:

Can I be fully present for her, without seeking validation for myself?
Am I able to turn conversations back to her when someone asks about me?
Can I show up with joy and not comparison?

If the answer is yes, then go. Hug her. Laugh. Celebrate. That’s the energy that makes memories.

This Isn’t About Rudeness, It’s About Readiness

Let’s stop calling it rude to show up with your full self.

It’s not rude to bring your big, beautiful belly into the room.
It’s not selfish to be pregnant too.
It’s not wrong to exist just as you are.

You’re a woman. You’re a mother. You’re part of her circle, not a threat to it.

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